Death Penalty for the 3 guilty Shakti Mills rape perpetrators

The three perpetrators found guilty in Shakti Mills Rape case were sentenced to death yesterday, April 4th 2014.

Opinions are divided on the verdict, the Facebook pundits growling in joy while most of the feminist organisations are opposing the death penalty.

Flavia Agnes’s excellent article on the regressiveness of the penalty here.

We had this discussion last April in context of Nirbhaya rape and murder case. Even if you don’t read the post do read Kavita Krishnan’s comments. They succinctly summarise why death penalty doesn’t achieve any concrete results in reducing sexual crimes.

And here on the Nirbhaya case verdict which also sentenced perpetrators to death.


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Yet another idiot who takes victim blaming to another level.

Yet another idiot who has nerve to ask, “Why should Nirbhaya go for a late night movie show at 11 pm? Why should a photo journalist in Mumbai go to an isolated place like Shakti Mills at 6 pm? Girls should always remain alert.”

Yet another sexist jerk who preaches “Girls should be very careful about what they wear and at what time they move out in city. Their body language should not invite attention of the potential rapists lurking around in the streets.”

The said jerk is a doctor. Sigh.
A gynaecologist. Deep breath.
A member of Maharashtra Commission for Women. Epic scream.

Why the fuck would Dr. Mirge be on this commission in the first place? What does she hope to do there? Teach an advance course in ‘dress code and good manners for good girls’?

Tarun Tejpal and games powerful men play

Tarun Tejpal sexual assault case is yet another example of how sexual crimes are about power, and not sex.

And how the men in power think molesting their employees is another word for ‘flirting and sexual liaisons.’

In media, Tejpal is not alone as a powerful man, whose power is flanked by ‘flirtatiousness.’ When it is a powerful man who likes to ‘flirt’ with young women employees and can get away with these’liasons’, he is universally admired. Irrespective of his character and his position of power, it is usually the women who are sniggered at, as wanting to get ahead using their looks. The powerful man is entitled to liase, but a young woman ought to behave, if she doesn’t want to be accused of winning promotions on her back. Note that almost always, these men liase with their junior employees. It is very rare that their ‘affairs’ extend to those women who are their equal or higher up.

Most of the times, when you call the man what he is, i.e., abusing his power, you are told by your peers to be liberal and respect the different lifestyle. You are called a prude. You are told that women like powerful men if they are charishmatic and charming and wooing. They are not rapists afterall, they are just ‘natural’ extensions of women’s desire to be protected and pampered by powerful men. Evolutionary biology and all that shit.

When powerful men start waving their dicks in workplace, there is almost always an imbalance of power. Even when they do not molest, the ‘liasons’ are always about power. As one of the news stories went on to ask how Tejpal, a charishmatic man, was foolish enough to molest a woman, when so far he had gotten what he wanted by non-criminal ways? By reciting poetry verses and speeches on gender injustice, I am assuming?

The imbalance of power is not ‘flirting’ or ‘romantic relationships’. It is harassment, naturalised and clad as a harmless charm. I am not saying that all women are just helpless victims here. Some women might look at the situation as a necessary evil of working for a horny bastard without morals. But the system largely favours older, powerful men to initiate sexual contact and younger women to fall in line, albeit for professional favours that might be forthcoming as a result.

Smarter companies recognize this and that is why employees are not allowed to be in any kind of sexual relationship with their juniors, even when it is mutual. That is why smart companies also have a strict code of conduct. Because when there is no balance of power, there can be very little choice.

Several women resign, change jobs, change department or tolerate the situation, if their boss is ‘flirtatious’. Women who stay and fight, usually have it hard because flirting is tough to prove and difficult to accuse of. Women who respond are accused of being ambitious bitches with no morals.

When the boss starts flirting in workplace, it is always women who are required to make the choice. And this choice has virtually nothing to do with their skill-sets. When it is just the women who face the choice, it is decrimination, pure and simple. And any company who doesn’t address it, is violating the law.I was mildly shocked at the response of Tehelka management and Tejpal’s arrogant stance post the assault. Not because Tehelka is some citadel of justice, but simply because this case was a glaring example of harassment and sexual crime, and they chose to shush it as ‘internal matter’ and ‘misunderstanding’. Tehelka has plenty of skeletons in their closet, but they have been one of the few newsgroups vocal about sexual crimes and gender inequality. It is not tragic that a pathetic man on power trip decided to amuse himself by raping an employee. It is tragic though that he felt he could get away with it with his management.

All she knew was that until his arrest, he came home for dinner every night, “He was to me like any husband is to his wife,” she said.

IHM’s post today, a must read:

All she knew was that until his arrest, he came home for dinner every night, “He was to me like any husband is to his wife,” she said..

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Delhi Gangrape case perpetrators sentenced to death..

The four men who raped and killed the 23 yr. old student in Delhi, in a highly publicized December 2012 case have been sentenced to death. I have no doubt you have already heard about it, from news channels, to FB statuses to neighbourhood kattas. From elected political leaders, to common Indian people, the news is like a poetic justice to the horror inflicted on a common Indian, whose only crime was to be a woman.

I am not sure death sentence is the answer though. It is a great closure to the mass angst, but in reality, death penalty does not ‘deter’,or ‘put the fear of law’ in the minds of potential criminals .

Very often the popular sentiment of ‘revenge’ against the injustice sates the mass anger with a symbolic, flagship gesture.

To quote Kavita Krishnan from this article, “The real problem we face in sexual assault cases is the abysmal rate of conviction.” The figures are depressing to say the least. Out of almost 1.3 lacs of trials, a shocking 1.1 lac cases are still pending according to the National Crime Record Beureu.

And what about the fact that most rapes are committed by people known to the victim? The media coverage and popular reactions in the recent months has given rise to the myth that rapes are committed in dark places, at odd hours, by strangers ONLY. This could lead to restricting women’s participation in public places, not to mention reinforcing a very limited view of reality.

While we are celebrating death penalty, what about demanding change in laws that refuse to legislate marital rape because it will harm the ‘institution of marriage’? We are talking about changes that were demanded and rejected in 2012!! What about sexual harassment at workplace? What about the fact that 3 Dalit women are raped every day and the judiciary is unwilling to treat it as as a violation of SC/ST PoA Act? Are we saying that some rapes deserve highest punishment while others are ok?

The popular sentiment is no doubt guided by an outrage and a genuine sympathy for the woman who lost her life because she was a woman. No doubt this case has been the most powerful catalyst in recent times as far as mass opinion about sexual violence in India is concerned. No doubt the perpetrators deserve punishment. No doubt we, as a society and as a law and order system need to put women’s safety in top priority list.

But I am not sure if the euphoria from the death penalty is the answer. It definitely shouldn’t serve as a collective ‘revenge’ that will sate the mass anger, while millions of women go on suffering violence that is not ‘recognized’ by their country.

Anti domestic violence campaign and goddesses: A Raam Teri Ganga Mailee school of thought…

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I am very uncomfortable with this campaign. Just as I am with Raam Teri Ganga Mailee school of thought. Whereby, viewers are appealed to sympathize with a ‘pure’ woman who is abused by men ( and is usually saved by a man). We feel sorry for the woman because she was actually a ‘good girl’ and ‘still such bad things happened to her’!!!

I get this campaign. I get it. ‘How can women face such atrocities in country where women are worshipped as avatars of goddesses?‘, is the pitch of this campaign. It is no doubt very well executed.The familiarity of the traditional goddess poses contrasts impact fully with the bruises. It shocks you and moves you to see these powerful idols battered and downcast.

But you see, the patriarchal logic doesn’t consider every woman as a goddess. Rather goddesses ‘symbolize’ the ideal behaviour expected of a woman. IF you behave in a certain way that is sanctioned by tradition, ONLY THEN you qualify to fit in with the symbolism.

And how do you fit in? Only by subscribing to the patriarchal system. If you don’t, then you are not a goddess, but a slut, an unfit wife, a bad mother, a loose woman, an unfeminine freak, a controlling shrew.

And so, since you are not a ‘devi‘, you deserve to be shown your place. You need to be a Ganga, otherwise nobody gives a damn if you are abused you know!
This is what irks me in this campaign. The ‘goddess vs. whore’ analogy is so so ingrained in our culture that I think this campaign, with undoubtedly good intentions, falls in the patriarchal trap. It places women in the ‘every woman has a goddess inside her that should be respected‘ paradigm. The focus is on the ‘character of the victim’, albeit indirectly. And we are so so so fed up with ‘how should women behave to escape violence’ crap thrown in our face every day. Well intentioned or not!!

Domestic violence as a crime is a very new concept even to the educated urban Indians. Beating up your wife (or other female members of the household) and abusing them has been considered ‘ Miyan-Biwi ke beech ki baat‘. Our society doesn’t exactly condone it, but it is not considered as a matter of ‘law’ as much as a ‘family’ matter.

So, it is a great thing that in recent times, this issue has been raised in a manner that will shock people out of their misconceptions to see what domestic violence really is. It is not ‘miyan -biwi ke beech ki baat‘, but is actual violence where people, mostly women, get hurt and could die.

I would, however, prefer to see this dastardly crime for what it really is. A crime against women that ought to be penalized no matter what the ‘character’ of the victim is. Spare me this ‘shakti‘ and ‘bhakti‘ bullshit, Because we are tired of being goddesses, frankly.

( All Images courtesy taproot india)

Women’s safety and Media 2

So, what can a woman do to be safe? Correction: what can an Indian woman do to be safe?

I mean, come one, nobody wants to be molested and killed and harassed and injured just like that. Not even Dawood Ibrahim. Not even fans of S&M.

But for women, it is not so easy. Safety of ‘just being’ is a precious precious commodity, you see. You could get unsafe if you just sneeze or have an upset stomach or read Dostoyevsky or do cartwheels. I don’t know. I have stopped counting reasons why one could get raped. Eating Panipuri after 8 pm? Saying you hate Chennai Express? Having diabetes? In India rape could happen for any ‘reason’ and it won’t surprise me.

Wow, how I thank my luck for not being raped. Ever. I mean WOW IN CAPITAL LETTERS. I am so lucky to have escaped with 20 years of just regular street harassment, a glass ceiling, a few dangerous encounters. I am so lucky to be allowed to be born, to be educated, not to be raped in marriage, not to be abused by people known to me, not to be raped by strangers, not to be physically harmed for being a woman, not to be killed brutally.

I am lucky.

So, from this very privileged position , I can’t help but rejoice that last night all the five accused for the gangrape of Mumbai photo journalists have been taken into custody.

This is great news. Law and order of the country taking women’s safety seriously and acting on it and being responsible for it- is an essential human right. Kudos to Mumbai Police for swift action and hoping for a quick resolution to the case.

Media of course, does play a big role in pressurizing the authorities. Media has played a crucial role on taking up issue of women’s safety, sexual harassment, sexual violence with a gusto since mass media came into picture.

In recent times, in mainstream media- we have seen an upsurge of coverage about crimes against women since the Nirbhaya case. This is not to say that there was no media stories before, but the scale and the lack of rape apologism ( i.e, highlighting facts about victim’s behaviour and suggesting that the rape happened because victim didn’t behave like a good girl) is fairly recent.

And it has shown results. Be it relentless investigative stories about unreported violence, follow ups on pending cases, eloquent condemning of rape apologists, uncovering apathy of police and judiciary, social media campaigns, highlighting stories of women survivors and articles covering serious aspects of gender inequality have gained prominence in recent times in mainstream media .

Which of course is what the role of media is. If media , the fourth column doesn’t care about justice and truth and right to information, then who will?

But looking at the Indian society, which rushes to lock its women rather than men at even a hint of danger, I wonder if this coverage would also have a side effect. That of making women/ their families more scared and ultimately, restricting their presence in public places.

This point was raised by theconjecturegirl commenting on my earlier post : women’s safety and media.
To quote theconjecturegirl:
“I have a problem with the over-emphasis on “women not safe in Delhi/Mumbai/India”. It seems to have driven many women away from the public space, in fear for their personal safety. In general, there is the “let’s be safe than sorry. The city isn’t too safe these days” – as if it was very safe before.”

I sort of agree with her after the reactions one reads/ hears, to so many high-profile cases highlighted in media. Since majority of coverage focuses on violence in public places, as theconjecturegirl rightly points our,’ I feel sad when I get told “are you mad? why do u want to risk your life for a late-night dinner?” and when they look at every car passing by with a fear that it might just sweep them off their feet to be gang-raped. ‘

Would the parents of young girls impose stricter curfews and working women of all classes would be nervous of odd hours? ‘If a journalist is raped, then what chance would less empowered women have?’

As it is, women have to start their struggle to gain freedom of movement right at home. Indian families raise daughters in ‘avoid it if you can’ school of thought. It is always women who are censored : be it their activities, dressing, profession, body language. It directly leads to women being fearful of asserting themselves in any sphere. Now, does this coverage end up enhancing this fear and reluctance?

While this might be a very valid point and a possible side effect, I do believe that people would continue to censor women no matter what. To give an example, so many people said that if Nirbhaya, the woman in Delhi Gang Rape had been submissive, she wouldn’t have lost her life. One doesn’t have to be an Asaram Bapu to see the common-sense argument in this logic.

If I curl on my bed in a high security tower in Amazonian jungle with a drip of nutritious food sustaining me , I will not get raped. But the fact of the matter is, I and millions of women don’t live/ don’t want to live/ shouldn’t have to live in that tower just so that they are safe, no?

This common sense argument doesn’t address marital rape, rape of children, rape of dalit women in rural areas and hundreds of crimes where the victim had no chance to protest. What about the fact that most rapes are perpetrated by people known to victim?

So, to some extent I do agree with theconjecturegirl that this kind of coverage which she calls sensational, might lead to further driving women from public places. Because it focuses so much on violence committed by strangers who belong to lower economic strata, in public places, in dark hours; it may reinforce the myths about rape.

So maybe, what media needs to highlight is the reality of sexual/ gender related violence permeating every corner of our society. Be it child abuse, marital rape, rape by people known to victim, rape of poor/ lower caste women by people who are in authority, rape of sex workers, rape of women by men in diverse economic strata. These also need to be highlighted in equal measure.

What do you think?